Most of the problems... Most of the irritations... most of the damages happening in today's relationship world by relating with your friends, specially your life partner through your mind because mind itself is just pseudo reality. When I say pseudo reality, it means, the mind will go up and down all the time. It won't stay in a stable state and all it does is record and put inside our system images,along with the images there is some emotion attached that emotional pattern
could be a positive or negative (there could be a depression emotion or bad experienced emotion). If we will start relating with other people with these emotions or mental images attached with emotions, even for a positive emotion, there could be a definite change for a person to get into depression.
Have you ever noticed when we are in happy emotions, some way or some corner of our mind, it tells you that this happiness won't be there long-lasting, definitely after
sometime you will see depression. Your mind slowly tells you this and eventually some incident may happen and that will pull you up the other dimension of your mind. It means the negative part of the mind or pain mind.
Instead of that, when we start relating to the other person with their being level, if we try to do that our being level will automatically get into the awareness or the stillness or the consciousness which is the foundation of the mind. Once we established that consciousness and when relating with other people then in that moment the relationship will start flowering.
How is it Possible?
Now the next question may arise, the moment we start focusing our emotional mental pattern and try to attend our beloved or our friend or anybody in this world then obviously the mind will loses its power. It means there won't be any emotional or any other disturbances based on the gross level of our being when I say gross level of our being there is absolutely no environment of past memory or future expectations. It means we will get into the present moment that is absolutely nothing but consciousness or awareness.
If we start relating with other people with awareness, we will feel more comfortable and we will also respond based on that particular moment instead of reacting to that person. If this shift happens then the relationship will start flowering. That's why most of the time when we go to temple or church or mosque to pray to "God" and after praying to god we feel the experience... Wow! Now I'm getting out of irritation... I'm getting out of the depression from the other person or from me.
Why is this happening? Because that is the moment we relate with the high energy that is nothing but "God" and our mind will not work during that moment. That's why we feel so happy after praying to the god, so same thing will apply to our life.
Please do Yoga (or physical work out) and Meditation for at least 42 minutes (21 minutes yoga and 21 minutes meditation) for 21 days and start relating with others through your awareness. The change will start happening in you and you project the same good thing to others.
An experienced writer and counselor in relationship management with 15 years of research and development on human relationships and emotions
- Author of a renowned book, CRM: A Step-by-Step Approach, which is prescribed for graduate programs in 25 Indian universities
- Speaks frequently on relationships, and his sessions are broadcast daily on Merina America 24-Hour Tamil Radio (www.merina.com)
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